Alright, so there was this guy, and we were really into each other, but I always start to get scared and insecure in relationships with men I really like. Maybe that had something to do with it, maybe it didn’t, I don’t know. But the thing is, he seemed to start losing interest after a while, and it just got harder and harder for me. I ended the situation, and he didn’t even try to get me back. I was heartbroken.

I kept wanting him and would, off and on, visualize us together and try to use The Secret to get him to come back. After a while, I got over him and wasn’t mad or anything. I didn’t really have any feelings anymore, but I still thought it was a shame it fell through and how perfect we would have been together and all that.

A year later, he tried to contact me again. Things didn’t really work out because I got impatient and had too high expectations. I ended it before it even had a chance to start up. Another year passed, and a few months ago, while I was reading The Magic and doing the practices, I wrote him down as one of my three wishes. I wanted him to contact me again and to act differently than before, to tell me he was sorry and that he was willing to do whatever it took for us to be together, and so on.

And then I continued with my life, and met another guy. Weeks passed, and I started getting really interested in him. It got to a point where I liked him so much that I went back to my wish list and scratched the first guy off. I changed my mind. I did not want him anymore. A few days later, guess who contacted me again? This time, I was completely relaxed and had no expectations from him, because there was nothing I wanted from him anymore. So, I was just amused by it, and I started talking to him again, even though I was a bit bored by him, but I did it for old times’ sake. However, I still could not believe the things he said. He said the exact stuff I listed that I wanted him to say. He just went on and on about how he thought about me a lot, how he liked me way too much to let it go, and how he was willing to do whatever it took for us to be together. I was just sitting there, hardly believing my ears.

The only problem was that I had absolutely no interest in him anymore. The more we talked, the more I realized that he was not a good match for me. Although he was telling me the truth, back then, I was blinded by passion and attraction and could not see that we were not a good match for each other. It became clear to me that we never really talked about anything important to me, and we never connected on a deeper level. While we had feelings for each other, and I still care for him, it is not the kind of romantic relationship I want. I want to be able to share my soul with my partner, and if I tried doing that with this guy, he would just look at me like I was speaking in Martian and say something like, “It’s good to have emotions!” Lol! I told him that I was not feeling it anymore and that I was sorry. It was all good. He wanted us to stay friends and keep in touch at least.

The moral of this story is that sometimes you should just let some things or people go instead of wasting your time and energy trying to get them back. Only to realize what someone else already knew and just wanted to save you some time and spare you the pain.

Also, this seemed like a crazy thing to me: that he’d do that, contact me again, and say all those things. When I wrote it down, I don’t think I really believed it, but I didn’t really care that much. I was just like, “Well, if it happens, great, but I wasn’t going to spend my days visualizing it.” I really did let it go. So maybe someone can take a hint from this to help them create what they want, even if it’s just to make sure it’s not right for them!