Hello,

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I’ve never been able to wear a tampon. Now, imagine trying to be intimate, impossible, right? When my first boyfriend and I tried, it just didn’t work, and although we were okay with it for a while, we were both hoping I could be able to have sex soon. I researched and found that I have what is called Vaginismus; a rare dysfunction that affects 2/1000 women. This statistic alone is enough to express how lonely and helpless I felt. The problem is the dysfunction is mainly mental, an insane fear of sex. It made me really insecure, and when I’d hear stories of my girlfriends being active with guys I felt really upset, like it was unfair that I was doomed to never enjoy what I really felt I should.

Growing up in a deeply religious family, you can understand why I would have beliefs that would discourage me from being intimate with a man. But I knew I would beat this.

So, a guy I’d hooked up with last year who’s back in town was somehow still interested in me, and I told myself it would happen. I knew I didn’t need the surgery, so I told myself “My body is designed for this, sex is meant to be natural, easy and awesome”, etc.

After more than 2 years of awkwardly explaining to men that, sorry, there are some things I just can’t do, I can now have a normal sexual relationship!!!!

The guy was so patient with me, and although he’s a nice guy, I could never imagine someone being so patient and understanding. It was as if he was totally and completely on my side.

You know what the weird part is?

That whole week I’d been trying to reach a doctor that my shrink referred me to, and she never answered. When she didn’t answer, I just felt like that was the Universe telling me there was already a plan in place and that I didn’t need surgery.

Sorry if this is uncomfortable (see title) but there may be the 2nd out of 1000 women affected by this, and there aren’t many stories about this kind of thing. I just hope I can help someone out there. There is hope. You are human, you are meant and designed to enjoy these things, and it is your divine right to physical intimacy if it’s what you want.

What helped was feeling really good about myself. This guy was hot, and I actually attracted him back so I was on a really good frequency already. Feel good, trust and enjoy life! You can have anything you want because you deserve it!

Love, love, love!!!